Early this morning, in my kayak on the lake, lost in the mist before it warmed and lifted off the water, I experienced that kind of peace that only comes in nature’s broken, chirping morning silence. Everything was perfect. Still. Beautiful. Serene. I meditated in gratitude as I breathed deeply to the sound of the waves, my goals clearly in front of me, my personal resources full and complete.
Isn’t that awesome? - A great way to demonstrate how I start the day to my blogging audience, those past and future clients… Are you moved, impressed, inspired…? Does it take anything away from it with the added by-line that while this is absolutely true of my morning today: the earliness (6am – bam!), the mist (it was thick, heavy and soul-soothingly moody), the peace (unbroken, true), my clarity and strength (thank you, Vacation) it is also the first time I’ve managed to pull it off in months! Or does it remain beautiful and inspiring even though it’s one moment stolen from a life currently dominated by rambunctious kids, overbooked appointments, missed calls and lack of exercise.
Maybe it doesn’t matter. Maybe it does. I don’t know. I coach and lead and inspire people to be their best selves every day. I used to sometimes feel like a fraud in doing so. Because.
I get THOSE moments. I wouldn’t believe any coach or leader or inspirational guru who proclaims otherwise. Because I don’t believe anyone can feel awesome and be awesome and do awesome, all the time. I don’t think there would be much purpose in aiming to either. I know first-hand, as I coach those overachieving clients back from their highly anxious states with some frequency! However there is, no doubt, a kind of magic. And I do believe in this magic that makes some people’s lives richer and more fulfilling and ultimately happier than some others. And I am proud to be one of those people about 80% of the time.
Here’s my Truth: There is a something that isn’t right in my life. I don’t know what it is and I don’t know yet, how to figure out what it is. It’s this very small, occasionally bigger, sense that there is something missing or incomplete. And this feeling sneaks in when I least expect it. It shows up sometimes as muddle headed (uninspiring), bitchy (even less inspiring, ask my husband) or aloof and withdrawn (this is the worst manifestation by far).
So how, I used to ask myself, could I take people’s trust and belief and money to lead them toward beauty and pleasure and greatness, when I sometimes get up too late, blame my husband, rush my kids and then refuse to engage in the world that remains so full of opportunity around me? Here’s how:
Because sometimes, I wake up at the crack of freezing, and head out on the lake in my kayak before the mist has lifted off the water and I experience that kind of peace that makes it all worthwhile, remember? If not, read up. That was me. This morning.
The point is, whether we’re coaches or teachers or plumbers or doctors or moms or whatever, we’re presenting our best, or our worst – whichever we can choose in the moment– and I have a recipe, a secret set of tools that allows you to define yourself by your best moments and give new meaning to your worst. And that ability makes all the difference. It’s the magic that makes the life.
I’m a great coach, not because I have it all together, but because I know how to focus on the kayak, and the one day I woke easily before everyone else and I can relive that peace I found over and over and over even when I’m juggling life’s busy messes instead of floating happily on the water’s surface all alone.
And because of that; Because I can DO that, I can pay attention and I can model what I do myself and install it in others. And I can model what others do and install it in myself. I can know I’m a great coach in the good times and in the bad.
There is magic. And if you work to inspire, there is a way to avoid feeling like a fraud and to show up truly and completely for each one of your clients and be 100% sure of their success every time.